8 steps to bond with your children

1. Unconditional love.
When your kids screw up, and as they grow the screw ups get bigger and bigger. Tell them you love them. The action deserves punishment, and they must "do their time" but you still love them.
2. Schedule Time with your kids
3. Give focused attention to each child
4. Use eye contact so they know you are interested in them
5. Meaningful touching. Hugs, kisses, tickling, wrestling whatever. Continue this their whole lives no matter how much they pull away. They needs this.
6. Ongoing communication
7. Have fun together
8. Pray with them.

The best way to be a role model for your children is not to be perfect. They need to see that we are all human and all make BIG mistakes sometimes. When you loose your temper, when you mess up and get caught by them tell them "I'm sorry. Please forgive me." It shows them we are all human, and they are not the only ones who fall short on a daily basis.